Whenever you see a question with a (in your opinion) wrong accepted answer, comment on the wrong answer and notify the OP. . Two of those questions are mine, and I haven't been notified on either.
Note that if you expect a long, drawn-out discussion, create a new chat room and let the OP and in-your-opinion-wrong-answerer know in comments. This once happened to one of my posts on Physics.SE, and it played out well-- though one of the answerers never agreed with our result (he kept citing that his PhD friends at Berkeley had worked it out, but that doesn't make an answer correct).
Also, Physics.SE has had a similar drama, long ago, at a much larger scale. It seems to have lost some expert users due to that-- the main issue was that in certain fields/levels of questions, it is impossible for mods to determine which answers are right; and some people felt that "anyone can post a sophisticated-sounding wrong answer to a hard question and not get corrected". Anyway, this "drama" at chem.SE, if it is one, is at a much smaller degree, but its nice that you(both) came to meta to have it straightened out before it got out of hand. It's good that we're addressing this issue now, instead of later.
Back to the topic.
it rather looks like there is a trend toward hastily accepting answers
I for one, wait atleast a day before accepting an answer to let others have a chance. In fact, I accepted Terry's answer after having accepted another on the benzene question. If you've read it carefully (a pretty tedious task for most of Terry's answers, but informative), then you'll realize that he explained it via the same thing that Richard did, but added a note that it's even more different in momentum space. The rest explained a more general problem, on metals. You could call it irrelevant, but not nonsense (of course, I'm no expert, so I may be wrong here)
Also, there isn't much of an issue with hastily accepted answers. You can change the acceptance tick whenever you want, so if you feel you have a better answer, feel free to give it (which you have done, which is good). As I said, if you feel that a particular answer is wrong, let the OP know via a comment .
I hadn't gotten any indication that the accepted answer was wrong, and I liked/understood the accepted answer--so after reading yours I didn't change the acceptance tick.
Unfortunately, science is one of those fields where determining the correctness of an answer isn't as easy as it is on the other SE sites. Not everything is easily experimentally verified, and there can be more than one plausible (not necessarily correct) explanations for something. The Physics.SE post I linked to earlier is a good example of this.
So really, discussing this stuff (preferably on chat) is the only way to straighten it out. Try to keep these discussions civil(not saying you haven't, this is just a note for People From The Future); remember that the other guy is in the same position as you--both of you have a seemingly logical reason to think that s/he is correct.
Anyway, I'll scrutinize those questions of mine in a moment.